It really pays to ‘come as you are’


It really pays to ‘come as you are’ Chukwuneta Oby

She is a mum (of two). And on this day, she was on her way to pick the kids from school and really running late…thanks to a meeting that lasted longer than scheduled. The school authority had already called her more than once-to notify her that her kids were the only ones left. In a bid to beat traffic, she did ‘one way’-only to get to a junction and beheld some state traffic taskforce officials. It was a jittery her that began to drive back. As she made to reverse and before she knew it…she had hit another car.

She said that she just called a cab driver (whose services she also uses) to go pick her kids from school…as the other guy she hit his car followed her home for talks. Shortly after they got to her compound, the ‘mechanic’ that handles the man’s car also arrived. According to the car owner, he had just brought the car home…after a similar incident sent the car to the ‘panel beaters’(a few weeks back) and now this?

One can actually understand why he was ready to go ‘anywhere’ so long as his car gets fixed. The mechanic guy assessed the damage, gave his quotation. As my lady was haggling over the quoted price with him, while the man looked on…the mechanic said ‘’Madam, bring what you have, your husband will help you with the rest.’’ She responded thus “if there’s a husband, wouldn’t he have come down to handle this.

At this point, the man (whose car she hit) simply got into his car, asked the mechanic guy to conclude with her and zoomed off. My lady told me that less than 30 minutes after he left the scene, she received a call from him to “forget the matter, Madam. I will take care of the car.”

He was probably touched by her ‘husband-less’ status. Even as she relayed the story …I was moved. And I wasted no time in reminding her that ‘coming as she is’ probably saved her from what would have been huge expenses. The man’s car is one of those cars that a part (alone) can buy a ‘smaller car’ and some ‘change’ will be left.

Well, I confess that the romantic in me is already fantasising that the next time they ‘jam’…she will learn that our guy is also ‘wife-less.’

A lesson that is worth noting down here is the calm/humble demeanour of the lady. You shouldn’t carry yourself arrogantly when in a helpless situation or when you are at fault.

It’s funny but when it comes to misbehaving arrogantly, it’s even the ladies without some ‘cover’ that are most guilty.

Even in relationship matters…most of us are found wanting when it comes to ‘keeping it real.’ Some ladies (for example) lie about their marital status (probably because of our judgmental society) but how on earth do you hope to meet ‘the one’ when you keep claiming to have a husband/fiancé (that is nonexistent) somewhere? The person you are lying to could hold the keys to what you seek, you know?

It really pays to ‘come as you are’…you never know when a situation is exactly meant to bless you. I see no reason why you should not be honest about your issues…you could be exactly whom that person (for example) you are being real with has been looking for. And if someone has to act funny because you are being honest about your issues…just know that it is not your ‘being real’ that is to be blamed. Rather, you have just met someone who is wrong for you!


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