Khadija is not opposed to her husband getting another wife as his religion permits him as long as he can take care of them.
But her anger is that Suleiman is getting married to her best friend and he wants them to live under the same roof but readers think otherwise.
"My name is Khadija, a 28-year-old married woman with three children. I am a Muslim lady based in Niger State and I have been married for nine years.
But I am not a happy woman at the moment because my closest friend, Dije, stole my husband, Suleiman, after I accommodated her when her marriage broke.
I know as a Muslim, my husband is entitled to marry more than one wife as long as he can take care of them and love all of them equally but the betrayal is what I am not happy about.
Dije and I had been childhood friends and we did everything together right from when we were little girls. Our parents were distant relatives as we related as sisters since we were almost the same age.
We went to the same secondary school and people thought we were sisters which we were literary. There was nothing we kept from one another and we shared secrets including which guy was toasting us.
After our secondary school, we got into a polytechnic and that was where I met Suleiman, the son of a very rich man who did not hide his intention to get married to me from the first day we met.
As it is with our culture, I did not have much say because his parents went to my family and requested for my hand in marriage and in my final year, we had our Nikah with Dije being my maid of honour.
It was at my wedding that Dije met Mustapha who was Suleiman's close friend and six months later, they also got married. Our joys were fulfilled as we both moved from being close friends to being married to friends.
But eight years after, Dije and Mustapha divorced and with no place to stay, she had to move in with us pending when she would be able to sort herself out.
Little did I know that I was going to regret my act of kindness because barely five months after coming into our house, Suleiman informed me that he was going to take a second wife.
As a Muslim woman who knows the tenets of Islam, I could not tell him not to and there was no way I could be angry at his decision but I only asked him to tell me who the woman was and he shocked me by saying he wanted to get married to Dije.
I was aghast and told him he was joking and when I asked Dije, she answered offhandedly that they were in love and would get married. She even had the guts to tell me it would be lovely for us to be married to the same man.
Their parents have agreed to the marriage which will take place in two weeks' time but I am very angry at how the two people I loved and trusted could treat me this way.
The teaser for the day was:
What would you do if your husband insists on getting married to your best friend?
How Nigeria voted:
I will file for a divorce from him immediately - 27%
I will accept my friend as my co-wife - 15%
He will have to get another apartment for her if I can't stop him - 50%
She will become my worst enemy - 8%
How would you vote on this issue?
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